The verdict came down that Jp is not going to qualify for speech therapy at this time. Instead of looking at it as a negative…I’m going to embrace it. Hey, how bad can being too smart for speech really be, right? I’m in for (most likely) a lifelong battle to keep Jp where he needs to be educationally. So this summer…we are “unschooling“.
Never heard of it? You must live in a non-hippie part of the country.
Here is the long and the short of it:
Unschooling is a range of educational philosophies and practices surrounding the primary belief that education is a greater undertaking than schooling. Unschooling places little emphasis on traditional school curriculum and encourages children to learn through their natural life experiences including play, game play, household responsibilities, personal interests and curiosity, work experience, travel, books, elective classes, family, mentors, and social interaction. Unschooling encourages exploration of activities initiated by the children themselves, believing that the more personal learning is, the more meaningful, well-understood and therefore useful it is to the child. Differing from conventional schooling, unschooling questions the usefulness of standard curricula, conventional grading methods, and other features of traditional schooling in maximizing the education of each unique child.
It’s one step more hippie than co-op homeschooling and, in my humble opinion, pretty much child abuse if the child is school age. It’s a beautiful concept -it truly is- but not giving a child a formal education (be it at home or in a brick and mortar schoolhouse) is not allowing a child a legitimate chance at being a successful adult. I have seen many cases where the children can’t even read by middle school age. But this is not something that I plan to continue farther than the summer and the fact is…it is such an extraordinary premise that I feel as though it will have a relaxing effect on both of us.
I’ve become too wrapped up in educating and managing behaviors. I have genuinely forgotten how to enjoy my child. I went back to my usual tendencies of overlooking a person to investigate the mind within. I’ve lost track of the simple joys that come with just spending time with my son. Everything is a learning activity; every play time a possibility to analyze his socialization. We don’t just play anymore. We don’t spend enough time outside. We don’t do anything but fight (in a way that only a mother and toddler can) lately.
Give me the Iphone.
Take a bath.
Go to bed.
Put the shirt on.
Stop hitting the puppies.
I just woke up today and realized that I am not the Mom I want to be right now. And only I have the power to change that. Which started today.
I woke up, made an appointment and went and chopped off all of Jp’s hair. It’s indoor hair, too hot for a Texas summer in the sunshine. It had to go but I have to say that I miss it even though the new look is equally cute!
Even kids in school get a summer break and Jp and I are taking ours as a great experience to learn, have fun, and become even closer! Wish me luck!
Article Reference: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unschooling
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