Today I had to take Jp to see a new pediatrician in the same office since his (since his birth) moved away. It was just a standard well-check but I walked away feeling kind of sorry for the many children with delays that will see this woman (since mine certainly never will again). She was just so strangely clueless. I assumed all of his vital information was in the handy dandy computer and that she had perused it before we saw her (silly me) so I went about the appointment as normal, telling her about some of the newer issues that have come up and some that have resolved, and ended with requesting the new list of referrals that we now need from the office, as par usual.
She gave me a blank look when it came to the Neurologist. She wanted to know why I would need that. “Hmmmm *cue me being totally confused here* because that is what I discussed with [old pediatrician].”
She wanted to know why I would need that for a language delay.
What? Seriously? I looked over at my son that was currently standing straight at the tops of his toes, who could not answer her questions or follow her directions a moment ago, remembered that I just answered that he ate about 3 different foods and omitted about half of the food groups, that he had been repeating the word “doctor” since she walked in (since I told him we were going to the doctor earlier), we had discussed his teeth grinding and refusal to brush his teeth, the fact that he is three and does not sleep through the night, and his transition issues.
Okay, maybe that isn’t a reason to sound the alarm and call in every evaluation team that there is but the fact that she genuinely seemed to have ZERO clue why I would want him to be formally assessed was a tiny bit disturbing to me for all of the other children whose parents do not engage in the research that I do.
Lesson here? Trust your mommy gut and not your pediatrician. They are not ALL super intelligent, after all. This one seemed to not know a single warning sign outside of eye contact aversion.
Maybe the Developmental Pediatrician will say that Jp is a-okay, maybe not. But, either way, just write the referral so that I can feel like I gave it my all to do everything that I can for my son.
And maybe read a book on the different variations of delays and disorders, for goodness sakes.
I'm just living minute to minute, hour to hour, day to day.